The horror of Adulthood: Aging



the view of aging in a lens

Coming from a home where my parents are educationalists, they believe that, there is no rush in education. Every stage must be adequately attained at the proper time and age, this theory made me start school at a mature age.

During my primary and secondary school era, I had the opportunity to attend private schools. One fact we all know is that private schools are usually a place where you see underage as classmates. Starting school at a mature age, I saw myself caught up in a closed box, where I was ashamed to disclose my actual age. I got so jealous of my classmates because they were a few years younger than me, and that made me lie about my actual age ( Not in my legal documents) but, while discussing with them.

This attitude ate deep into me that I was ashamed of accepting my actual age and accepting the fact that I am aging, I developed Gerascophobia( fear of growing or aging). When I attained middle adulthood, I became even more terrified and anxious about aging because, of the popular notion that "Youth is beauty". This made me lose consciousness of the fact that aging is a phenomenon of life that one must attain in his or her lifetime.

On my 30th birthday, I told my husband that I was scared of this new stage because, I was getting to the stage where I would be referred to as "The old woman". He made to to understand that aging is a part of life which I should be happy to embrace because, it is a beautiful thing to be in an older community where being old is gold. 

After that statement, I began to see this aging in a different dimension and, I began to remove the aging syndrome that had been eating up my peace and sanity. The ways I used to kill this syndrome are, I began by:

  • Accepting and loving myself with the physical changes that I was experiencing. I told myself that these changes are synonymous with wisdom and experiences.
  • Accepting that this new age is a stage where I can share my experience to educate the younger ones.
  • Accepting the fact that my opinion about life is what gives me peace and harmony and not others (less tolerant baby).
My dearies, aging is not bad. We should embrace it with our beautiful arms because, it makes us understand ourselves better and know the limits that we can tolerate.

IT IS OKAY TO GET OLDER

 

Comments

  1. ChyonyiDecember 2, 2023 at 5:58 AM

    Yes my dear I can witness such for my friends back age time past

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  2. AnonymousDecember 2, 2023 at 6:07 AM

    I love this. I was thinking I was the only one afraid of ageing but hopefully I gat to learn from this

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    1. AnonymousDecember 2, 2023 at 9:56 AM

      Aging is Gold, please don’t forget that

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  3. AnonymousDecember 2, 2023 at 6:48 AM

    Apparently, this fear happens to be common especially with women.
    It's beautiful to read how you've been able to conquer it.
    Aging is gold.

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  4. AnonymousDecember 2, 2023 at 9:57 AM

    Thanks for the feedback

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  5. ChiggyDecember 3, 2023 at 12:15 AM

    Aging Is Gold.

    This Piece Is So Good... Keep It Up Ma.

    ReplyDelete
  6. AnonymousDecember 3, 2023 at 4:10 AM

    Thank you so much

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